I would never publish private conversation as attributed to that person without consulting with them.
In this case, I was already writing publicly on our Zulip all the while I was meeting Richard & Vineeto during those six weeks in Ballina. However, since Rick and I decided not to communicate publicly anymore, I took the whole Zulip private and made it inactive (no one’s participating). So, this one case didn’t seem very clear-cut to me. What do you all think?
You are quite right. In fact, a common feedback my Quebecois landlord (who welcomes French students, with whom I often socialize from time to time) gives me is that I’m too focused on my own perspective in life, instead of, say, taking genuine interest in other people (she had this to say, primarily, in response to my falling-in-love back in December).
I can’t moralistically force my way into being less ‘self’-centric, can I? I will nevertheless keep this in mind as I go about everyday interactions. Getting outside of my ‘personal emotional interest’ is … well … umm … kinda scary-seeming at first. But … I can dimly see a great sense of freedom too. I will play with it!
@claudiu I’ve renamed the title of this topic since the focus has shifted in a meta-level, and I figured it is more useful that way. The original title was “Bullying / Bullies” and I paraphrased what Richard told me in the houseboat regarding dealing with bullies (and their fear & aggression), with the intention of linking to it from other topics. My memory may not been most accurate, and since Richard is not here and nor can Vineeto confirm it, it is best left unwritten.